Are you just
Are you Thriving?
If the urgent sidelines your important
again. and again. and again…
If you are sure that today is the day you will be calm and
respond rather than react, but then the triggers hit
day. after day. after day…
If your weight has gone up and down 10, 20, 30+ lbs
over. and over. and over…
If you have bought and not followed through on
every planner. every system. every program…
you have dreams that you know are waiting for you,
but you’re stuck in the waiting…
You or your mother have experienced any of the following:
- sexual regrets, trauma or abuse
- infertility or miscarriage
- crisis during pregnancy or post-partum period
(physical, mental or emotional)
- stillbirth or loss of infant
- abortion (attempted or successful) or
- placing a child for adoption
“You formed my innermost being, shaping my delicate inside and my intricate outside, and wove them all together in my mother’s womb…
You even formed every bone in my body when you created me in the secret place, carefully, skillfully shaping me from nothing to something. You saw who you created me to be before I became me!
Before I’d ever seen the light of day, the number of days you planned for me were already recorded in your book…”
Psalm 139: 13, 15-17 (Passion Translation)
Beginning of Time,
God has been
Waiting for You
God has good plans for you and those plans are meant to prosper you.
But the enemy has come to steal, kill & destroy what is good in your life. Throughout your life, he takes every opportunity available to offer something “better” than what God is offering you.
In times of trauma, those offers can look irresistible.
The definition of trauma may surprise you…
from Miriam Webster Dictionary:
1. a) an injury (such as a wound) to living tissue caused by an extrinsic agent
b) a disordered psychic or behavioural state resulting from severe mental or emotional stress or physical injury
c) an emotional upset
// the personal trauma of an executive who is not living up to his own expectations – Karen W. Arenson
2. an agent, force, or mechanism that causes trauma
~ 1. c) an emotional upset ~
Trauma is easily recognized when it is extreme, but your sub-conscious does not differentiate between extreme trauma and an emotional upset and neither does the enemy – he will take advantage of your vulnerability and tell you lies in an attempt to steal the good things God has planned for you. If you do not have the skills to navigate the trauma you are experiencing, you are at risk of accepting those lies or making vows that will give the enemy the right to trigger you at will.
As time passes, you may not even remember those “emotional upsets” ~ it is even possible that you suppressed those memories ~ but the lies believed and vows made result in the emotions you felt during painful life experiences being stored in your body like electrical charges.
Current experiences that trigger over-reactions and ineffective coping strategies are indications that there is emotional fuel that needs to be released whether or not we remember the past painful experiences that have caused the symptoms of today.
~ memory ~
“the mental capacity or faculty of retaining and reviving facts, events, impressions, etc.
or of recalling or recognizing previous experiences.”
It doesn’t matter how long ago you experienced the trauma.
~ Sexual Heartbreak ~
~ Infertility ~
~ Adoption ~
~ Children with Jesus ~
The Body Keeps the Score
(Title of book by Bessel Van der Kolk)
~ change ~
from Miriam Webster Dictionary:
Verb (used without object), changed, changing.
to become different:
Overnight the nation’s mood changed.
1. the act or fact of changing; fact of being changed.
They are pleased by the change in their son’s behavior.
2. a transformation or modification; alteration:
They noticed the change in his facial expression.
because change shouldn’t take decades.
Splankna Therapy Institute
In 2003, I gave birth to my 2nd son and eight weeks later, I was hospitalized for post-partum psychosis
My pregnancy and birth experience had been wonderful – Baby and I were healthy and I was able to have the VBAC delivery that I was longing for but, as life with a toddler and a baby continued, I wore myself down trying to keep up with all the things I thought I should be doing to take care of my family. I had added a baby and not slowed down to accommodate the changes that came with an additional member of the family that was entirely dependant upon me. When he was 8 weeks old I left my 22 month old son for the first time ever and travelled with my newborn and my parents across the country to attend the unexpected funeral of my uncle and by the end of that extremely stressful weekend, I had stopped sleeping and was admitted to the hospital because it had become obvious how sick I was.
- Emotional Upheaval…
- Lack of Sleep…
These are all pieces of the puzzle that resulted in my Post Partum Trauma but years of counselling, talk therapy, coping management strategies & medication had only brought sporadic relief for these symptoms.
The standard tools didn’t heal the emotional roots of my illness nor did they address the enemy rights that had made me susceptible in the first place.
In December, 2017, it had been 14 years since I had first crashed and I was still coping with “symptoms” that I couldn’t understand:
– why couldn’t I keep my weight stable?
– why couldn’t I sleep well without medication?
– why couldn’t I keep my home clutter-free?
– why couldn’t I homeschool my kids without feeling so frustrated
After praying for years for the fruits of the Spirit to fill me and change me,
– why did I still feel so uncomfortable in my own skin?
If you have wondered the same things or perhaps you’ve had similar but different symptoms, I can help you. I found the answers I was looking for as I worked through my training to become a Master Level Certified Splankna Practitioner.
The enemy does not create, he only distorts and if energy healing works (as I have no doubt it does), it is because God created it.
And what God created… is good. So good.
But we do need to tread carefully with energy healing because of the way it has been distorted and the vulnerability that is inherent when we tread where the enemy walks. We cannot just embrace everything that the world has embraced and we need to be wise and discerning as to what we redeem and the tools we utilize.
The spiritual boundaries God has shown Sarah Thiessen (Founder of Splankna Therapy Institute) to put around energy healing keep both practitioners and clients safe.
In our sessions:
1) We acknowledge that God is Lord over all, His Son, Jesus Christ, has all power and authority & Holy Spirit is our Guide to wisdom, discernment and truth.
2) We do not seek special knowledge or powers.
3) Open with prayers for wisdom, clarity & safety and:
* follow the lead of the Holy Spirit
* address mind, body, spirit & soul
* identify the roots behind emotional symptoms
* dissolve the emotional fuel through a combination of “thought and touch” &
* revoke the lies and vows that were adopted in the trauma moments
* pray in the name of and by the power & authority of Jesus Christ
The healing journey has been described as an onion (peeling back layers) or an artichoke (layers peeled back to look like a flower) but I love my friend, Bryn Kroto’s, description of the healing journey best. She says that it is an ascending spiral and we will work on one piece of our story, then take a break from that and work on something else. Each time we come to that first piece, Holy Spirit will take us deeper and give us fuller understanding until that piece is fully healed.
14 years after my first bout with post-partum trauma I was still stuck in my own Groundhog Day – each day would begin with optimism and inevitably be sideswiped by frustration and irritation as a result of my lack of sleep and trauma triggers. Although I still feel frustration and irritation at times (who doesn’t??), I am able to return to a place of peace in no time – no more fuming and wallowing for hours (days!), I love myself just the way I am and I am confidently moving forward toward my goals.
I am no longer stuck surviving.
I am truly thriving.
The words to this old hymn by Horatio G. Spafford have new depth and meaning for me since I started my energy healing journey.
When peace, like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll;
Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say,
It is well, it is well with my soul.
Though Satan should buffet, though trials should come,
Let this blest assurance control,
That Christ hath regarded my helpless estate,
And hath shed His own blood for my soul.
My sin—oh, the bliss of this glorious thought!—
My sin, not in part but the whole,
Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more,
Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul!
It is well with my soul,
It is well, it is well with my soul.
Align yourself with Father God.
Imagine the possibilities.
Believe as you achieve.
Embrace His perfect timing.
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